The Frailty That Death Brings

To say we are moving at a whirlwind pace in everyday life is a cliche. It is sad that we don’t spend enough time with ourselves. Use that sacrosanct space to think. And brood over life’s mystery. Ask questions about life and death and love. Try to make sense of our inner world when we have interior designers to take care of our house and our furniture.

This morning I saw a school bus right infront of ours’ on the road. The boys on the front seat and turned around and sat on their knees to talk to those behind. Animated. Chirpy. Sprighty. Sunlight streaming in and gaiety spread everywhere. In contrast to the one I was in, with tainted (shut) windows and earphone laden IT professionals.

I wasn’t jealous or sad. Because hadn’t I already lived that life? Nostalgic? Not really. If anything, it made me remember the eyes through which I saw the world. Where every corner turned had a marvel awaiting. Wide-eyed and inexhaustibly curious. Gaping with wonder at life and what lay infront.

For some reason, my thoughts centered on death. I can’t remember what I used to think about it when I was very little. Similar to sex, I guess. I don’t remember having a birds and bees conversation with my parents. I just happened to transition into the knowledge. Pretty early too. How? Well, that’s a story for another day.

But I do remember my first encounter with death, albeit indirect. When my grandpa (Maa’s father) died, I was five years old. My mother was inconsolable and both my parents left for Varanasi the next morning leaving me and my sister under the eye of my grandma. I knew the rituals and so the vision that formed in my head said that the next time I go to Varanasi, I won’t find him in the house. That was all. I never wondered, ‘Where he went?’ and ‘Why?’. And if there was a point. But I wasn’t sad.

I was probably shielded from death’s harsh truth because I never saw death of a loved one up close. And I can only half-imagine the turmoil that children go through if they loose someone (especially a parent) at that young an age. Even when a dog is laid to rest, elders (let, children) are inconsolable and sad. And it is then, they ask two very important questions: “Why?” “And what now?”

And the pain and the grief are diminished with time and love and life. But now and again death does come to haunt us. And shake us with its unsaid words: “Everything in life is fleeting. It takes one blink of an eye and it is over” If anything, you try to live your life with more compassion and respect. But the conscious feeling lossens its grips over you and you again get embroiled in the pettiness, in the criticism and the fighting. Ofcourse, there is a fair share of happiness, achievement and love tas well. But one never gets answers to the questions asked when young: “Why?” “And what now?”

The first and only corpse I have seen was my grandmothers’. I was in twelfth grade and she died after a long painful illness. But the body that I saw had no warmth. It didn’t ooze life. And as the jaw lay open, I could distinguish between how life should be. Not cold. Anything but harsh.

When someone dies, people feel the frailty of existence. They sit together and talk about the goodness of the person that left. The memories that were created and shared and bonded over. And in their own way try to make peace with Nature’s upper hand and then dig into dinner and dessert.

It is important that time and again we are reminded of what death feels like. How there is nothing romantic after that. And inspite of the person’s departure, s/he continues to dwell in our hearts and thus live on. The only type of fame I would prefer would be the one which infuses a feeling of warmth and kindness.

Be a little less critical. A little more heart-ical. A little less practical. A little more lovable. And more importantly keep questioning “Why?” and “What now?” to allow life to lead them through a better journey. Whether the will be answered in the end (or should we say the beginning) is a separate story.

The Day You Turn 18!

I wrote this for a girl I’ve known since school (and who I used to call ‘Hermione’) on her birthday last year. But I guess this could be for every individual stepping out of adolescence into adulthood. Didn’t seem right that it was sitting in my outbox.

The Day You Turn 18!

I wonder if this is yet another set of verses
Written that will later gather dust in the mailbox.
But I guess it’ll have done its bit
If a li’l of stardust dazzles on your face as you read what follows
And on your 18th birthday, you are ready for the waters beyond the docks!

They are not piece of cake – the times ahead
Maybe you already have a plan in place for the future.
But the times ahead will be of myriad flavours – unexplored, not yet relished
Candies, Truffles, maybe an occasional Wax-flavoured Bertie Botts’,
And more, but always ready to surprise and occasionally send you into rapture!

‘You are an Adult now’
Well, at least the Constitution says so.
So, do you have the To-Dos on your Agenda?
A Career, Love and a Future shaped from your own hands
I sure do hope along the ride you have a lot times to shout out ‘Woh-hoooo!!’

Happy Effulgent Eighteenth!

The Fallacies of ‘The Good Life’

They say that IT holds tremendous potential. Skyrocketing salaries, abundant opportunities to fly abroad, higher stature and maybe even being the ‘preferred’ bridegroom with ample suitors. Yet something seems amiss. With thousands being recruited in herds and your Bachelors’ education deemed redundant and unnecessary for getting into a reputed firm, a new flux of teeming engineers seems to be directed towards the IT universe.

For starters, the services sector contributes about 57% of India’s GDP in revenues and IT is a huge chunk of that number. Undoubtedly, India – the world’s outsourcing backyard – is generating new jobs at a rapid pace and a large number of college campuses play host to IT firms and hence the alluring placement figures of 90% and above of every second engineering college.

Companies pick up hundreds, sometime thousands, from the same college and take them along on their “brandwagon”. Those who are not from Computers/IT no longer worry about landing a job. A few worried lot (parents) do exercise caution and advise their wards not to enter the IT territory as they feel that a non-IT background might prove to be a hindrance but such cases are fewer than perceived. And students are allured by the pay packages, the brand image, the big cities and the almost-foreign infrastructure.

As I sit here writing this, I know a lot of people are going to disagree with the point of view I am putting forward. And I appreciate that. Sure, every one of us likes watching reruns of ‘The Social Network’ or talking about the work life at Google. Or how IT is transforming rural governance and financial transactions. Or how the internet is the ultimate Oracle to all questions of humanity. At least, the working class. All this and not to mention the cutting age advances in technology, programming and Artificial Intelligence. Undoubtedly, our future rides on IT. No exceptions.

Except. Except maybe the lifestyle.

It’s not about R&D. Or building something new. It’s about what a significant part of the sector is working on in India. Providing/enhancing/sustaining software services where they stretch long hours. Often, humongous long hours! For years.

Fat pay cheques (sometimes). Flashy iPhones and laptops. And in three-four years, even getting one’s own four wheeler in addition to a stint in the US, UK or Australia. And moving up the ladder, maybe with or without an MS/MBA. Then a home. And then.

But that’s life flashing by. That is not every day. While Narayan Murthy advises people not to stay late in offices, how many adhere to it? Less than those who should. Because if your biological clock gets badly shaken, your health goes for a toss and even weekends seem drab and worth only completing your sleep, you’ve got to question if you are going right.

Don’t get me wrong. I strongly adhere to the fact that those in love with computers and technology should work hard at it and enjoy its fruits. But prioritizing is important. The work culture can be ruthless sometimes. I am not painting a sad picture because there are huge upsides too. Yet you’ve got to question how much of your time you are willing to put in. And at what cost?

Because in your quest for a life, you might be squandering it. Every day putting in 10-12 hours. Coming home exhausted both physically and mentally. I mean, Come on! Sure you might have got a pack of friends, as thick as thieves, at your workplace but coming home regularly when it is past dinner time is a sheer waste. Once in a while wouldn’t hurt but making it a routine is definitely a problem. And if the only hobbies you have are watching movies in the theatre or on your laptop and earphones ‘adorn’ your ears 24×7, you might have to question if you are living life in 1-D. Long commuting hours, strenuous work and little time for oneself, let alone family – make sure you are not one of them.

At the end of the day, it is a personal choice. For those wanting to be/already are computer professionals, growth prospects are huge. But if you want to live the life, make sure you choose how you live it – when to stay and when not to. As someone said, ‘When you are on your death bed, nobody would reminisce the codes he wrote or the presentations he made’.

On Stranger Tides is me bound.. Ahoy!

“Why is it that we cannot meet without you pointing something at me?”

- Angelica to Jack Sparrow

The fourth installment is here. Johnny Depp with his charming (and amazingly peculiar ) antics. The buxom Penélope Cruz with her oh-so-oomph-like Spanish accent and disarming smile. Hans Zimmer’s mesmerizing background score. A parallel world of enticing mermaids. The swarm of buccaneers driven by adventure, blood and treasure to scale the boundless seas. And the legendary quest for the Fountain of Youth!

‘ Pirates of the Caribbean: On Stranger Tides’ has left me bedazzled!

A script independent of the preceding trilogy is a breath of fresh air. Its different. And, above all, it gives the character of Jack Sparrow a more universal appeal. Like Tin Tin. Or Sherlock Holmes. (The comparison is laughable) But on a gargantuan scale!

Johnny Depp is undeniably one of the most prolific actors to have ever graced the silver screen. He is one actor you can count on who will seamlessly merge with his on-screen persona and you will refer to him as Jack when you walk out the theatre gates. Jack Sparrow: Much has been written about this (immortal) character and I will just add a line or two. He makes you want to throw everything away and jump into the waters. Pull out a sword and duel out the bad guys. Savour every drop of alcohol and walk with the lightness – one that screams carefree (and girly too).

Penélope Cruz is a huge USP of this movie. I wish there were more of her scenes because some every intelligent scriptwriting translates into cackling chemistry and witty one-on-one between the duo. It’s a treat one looks forward to. She is a glowing torch  throughout. And her serenading beauty is enhanced for yet another reason: She was pregnant with son Leo Encinas Bardem while shooting for this film.

Angelica is a female pirate. Jack chanced upon her at a Spanish convent (“Mistook it for a brothel. My mistake”) and she was trained by Cap’n Jack before he traded her (What!) and left. She’s returned – deadly and seductive. Jack confesses later to Gibbs that he might have had ‘stirrings’ (love the word choice here. Read: feelings) for her and yet he left her. A gritty buccaneer at heart, she is simply sensational.

Mermaids. The ritual at the Fountain of Youth to gain everlasting life requires a mermaid’s tear. And the mermaids are jaw dropping. Shimmering sirens with overflowing beauty – I couldn’t stop gaping. Kudos to some spell binding cinematography by Dariusz Wolski  and, believe me, it is a visual treat. Astrid Berges-Frisbey is an overflowing cup of innocent (Yes! I know ‘innocent’ is clichéd) beauty. Feast for the eyes!

Geoffrey Rush and Ian McShane are great in their own right. The movie does have a few flat moments but they are ‘few’. You’ll be on the edge of your seat and enjoy like a school boy. I know I did. Because for nerves exhausted by watching too much action, ‘On Stranger Tides’ managed to keep me hungry and entertained. And when the credits rolled up to Hans Zimmer’s symphony, you know it was worth it!

As a kid who loved playing ‘Claw’ on his PC where Cap’n Claw fought through fourteen bewildering stages after escaping from prison to find the Amulet of Nine Lives, I have always been in love with the sights of sounds of pirates. The clashing of swords, the treasure chests and the heartfelt childish wish that the line between real life and legend is blurred – even if for a precious few hours – so that you can live an adventure.

Ahoy, sailor! Hoist Jolly Roger onto our ship! It’s time to set sail. Greater adventures lie ahead! And you better get ready!

P.S.: The title isn’t grammatically incorrect. And Jolly Roger is the skull and cross-bones sign used by pirates since centuries and which has inspired the Pirates’ signature poster.

Stuck on the same ol’ tape recorder!

Kids learn and, boy, they learn fast! The world around is a whirlwind for them and there is a lot to take in. But on our ride up the staircase, we develop a sense of style. Characteristics. Commendable virtues and mannerisms. And (most often), boring words and phrases!

Have you met someone who says ‘Obviously’ too often? What? You haven’t met me! Alright. How about someone who keeps shaking his/her head a hundred times while you haven’t begun speaking? No! That’s not me. But it’s downright irritating. How about someone who says ‘Sounds good’ a hundred times in a phone call?

When it comes to incorporating a new language (read: English) or culture, sometimes a few (of our favorite) phrases just get glued to the tongue and never seem to disengage. And you unconsciously repeat those words again and again. And again! Whether, its ‘Moreover’ or ‘Oh yeah’ or ‘Definitely’ or, one of my (least) favorite ones, ‘Basically’!!

We are so caught up in our rigid body language, mannerisms and nonsense verbiage (overabundant word usage) that we aren’t even aware of our limiting postures, stupid gestures and (yes) annoying word usage. It comes with a lifestyle that maybe too stressful, boasts of limited growth (personally) and gifts even lesser time to think.

More importantly, (most) people around us are too busy (or inept ) to tell you the truth. An effective body language coupled with sharp wordage works wonders. Not getting stuck in the rut is monumental – both for your (double quotes ) professional (double quotes over ) and personal life – expressing yourself lively; not being on autopilot mode with some ol’ monotonous tape being played a zillion times!

Think about it! An effective personality is defined, amongst other things, by enthusiasm, emphasis and freshness. Not just (to borrow Intel’s tagline) ‘intelligence inside’, but originality in expressing that intelligence. Hence, lookout! Be on your own watch! See if you get caught up and are reiterating the same phrases and exclamations.

Keep an eye on your body language. If it’s confident? Powerful? Timid? Or scared? And also on your tongue. If its having fun moving around mouthing words.

Use words to entice, excite and impress. Use them to motivate, stimulate and work. Overuse ruins them of their potential. Let your stereo play a new tune everyday. Then, a rare ‘Obviously’ will be emphatic, a rightly placed ‘Oh yeah’ would be funny and a ‘Fuck!’ wouldn’t be just another expletive used two hundred times a day.

Revel in the novelty of wordsmithy and your own capacity is utilizing it!

Still Life

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I am a photographer. It’s an on-off hobby but something that appeals because its art. A breath-taking way of taking your breath away! I find stealing a slice of life exciting and that moment becomes a memory etched forever – for me (and anyone else) to pick up and get absorbed into. Last year Christmas, [...]

Sharpening the Culinary (Cooking, silly!) Knife

WARNING: This post is tongue-in-cheek. (My tongue and my cheek, smarty pants! Don’t read too much into it )

The electricity just went off as I was licking my fingers while wrapping up dinner. And so post everything, I am out in the balcony with my laptop to write what you are reading. There is a slight movement of air in and around making up for a pleasant and fragrant night. God! I should stop using rain and wind and all forces of nature in between for a while. Sometimes I think that is all I write about. But considering these elements of nature are an enticing slice of life, I think I can’t often digress.

Back to dinner. yes, you guessed it right. I was the host and the chef for the night! Like most nights almost for a month now. Was on my own today. But along with my enthusiastic flatmate, we have gone from being the ‘I-can-boil-water’ experts to ‘biryani and curry’ connoisseurs. Warriors whose culinary expertise doesn’t reach full stop at Maggi noodles and cold coffee. Or like the most of us these days who can be divided into two categories (if not in the ‘gourmet league’, my mother, my roommate and I are a part of): Those who eat/order from outside every single day AND those who savor what the ‘gourmet league’ people cook.

I belonged to the latter class for most of my life (and will continue to throughout my life obviously). The last few years, however, I have been a flag bearer of the former club as well. You know the lot: Bunch (actually, herd) of ‘budding’ (laughable) engineers in the making living away from homes studying/just starting out on their careers. Those morons who share apartments, run around half-naked, dirty and unshaven most of the time. The ones whose daily schedules reeks of Facebook, assignments, porn and, probably, even booze. (Jesus! I am talking in general. Don’t you form an opinion already). What the heck? Wasn’t I talking about food? Oh yes! Anyway, I was referring to those (including the adorable engineering students) who, in a nutshell, eat outside every single day at dhabas/roadside eateries and sometimes in posh hotels.

Everyone is a part of both the clubs. Eat outside or eat off someone’s magic hands at home. But joining the likes of those who possess those ‘magic hands’ is quite a journey. It’s a road that is full of surprises, experimentation and, sometimes, a satisfaction that hangs loosely halfway somewhere on the orgasmic scale. Okay, that was weird!

So, back to the cooking. About a month ago, after I returned from home subjected to some of the most delectable delicacies on Planet Earth, we (my flatmate and I, if you aren’t keeping up) decided to give cooking at home a shot. This was partly triggered by the snatching away of a two-wheeler on which we scaled the town up and down in search of two morsels. And, living on a part of a highway where the nearest eateries are so close that walking back home after eating would make you wonder if you did have dinner, the departure of the bike put us in a blind spot.

Way back as a kid, I had mastered the art of whipping up first-class slurpy noodles. This was followed by a keen interest to replicate the peanut-jaggery sweet, more popularly called ‘chikki’ in India. It met with considerable success, as I do remember those wintry evenings spent in melting the jaggery and pouring in roasted peanuts. As I allowed the concoction to turn golden-yellow, I’d follow my mother’s instructions of pouring it on a ghee-smeared platform and flattening it with a rolling-pin. And putting in irregular cuts while still hot. And, man, when they would cool down! The tasty crunchy evening snack I put up was a victory that beats many desserts ordered a la carte.

I remember eating dough when I was young. As the water-laden flour was being kneaded, I’d pull off a clump and start rolling it in my mouth. It was discouraged, obviously! But it also points towards my inclination towards rotis/Indian bread which is in contrast to the Bengali that I should have turned into. Bongs often refer to themselves with a ‘Maachhe Bhaate Baangaali’ (Fish and rice makes us Bengalis). And here I was relishing every morsel of roti dipped into dal or rolled over a vegetable dish (or occasionally mutton) and developing odd ways of having rice in the most unlikely combinations: with the yellow of a boiled egg or with sweet mango pickle or, sometimes normally like with the curry of fish or paneer.

To contrast that with today, where every dinner is a rice dish is sure to make my parents feel that I am not that bad a crossover resulting from the ‘Probaashi Baangaali’ phenomenon (Bengalis moving away from their natives). Yeah! As someone worried about developing a tummy and not having a gym nearby, I’d not be that acquiescent in agreeing but would nevertheless be proud of the dishes I dish out: Most of them finger-licking delicacies!

These include primarily, biryanis and pulaaos (which have as their ingredients everything from soya bean and paneer to large cauliflowers, okras and green peas), where a single whistle from the pressure cooker is followed by a tantalizing aroma fanning out in the kitchen implies “Something yummy’s ready to be attacked on to!”. ‘Coz its all about the spices. The right amount spices everything – including the dish – up!

Lately, we have experimented with preparing the subzee/veggie and the rice separately. This gives an even better epicurean delight as you get to savour the flavours distinctly and widen your range of experimentation. The thick creamy curry of veggies (whether using fresh tomatoes or, as I discovered today, just ketchup) is simply irresistible!

Not all experiments are successful! Chicken bombed! I am very selective about non-vegetarian food, even more so because I rarely eat any, and to actually bring in and cook chicken meat isn’t exactly cakewalk. Maybe I was just imagining but I thought there was still some strange odour coming out from the chicken so I didn’t eat any. Surprisingly, my roommate finished the pound of it!

The last couple of weeks have been a little stupidly busy making me reach home after the sun has set. And, hence, the pressure-cooker and the knife work like a charm. Sometimes, when I am very late, my flatmate does most of the work. Just like a loving dutiful wife. (Now, before you feminists come out to hit me with a dildo over my supposedly male chauvinistic comment of equating homely cooking to women/housewives, hear me out: I am on your side. That was a dig at conservatives!)

However, the waistline is still a concern. And as I expand my ‘foodie’ vision, I think its time I began experimenting with rotis. Initially, they will be anything but a circle! But, guess what! The accidental discovery of my cooking prowess beckons me to try that out! Not as something cumbersome and time-consuming. But an adventure (sorry, Jack Sparrow! My stranger tides differ a li’l bit)!

The Walk Together

I will keep this brief. Coz no amount of ‘wordsmithy’ will encompass the fact that: Tomorrow completes 30 years of my Maa and Baba being together. At least when it comes to a sacrosanct-cum-official bond. You must have heard about it, I guess. It’s called ‘marriage’!

I see a world submitting to the wonders of technology and liberation. Where social intercourse is not exactly ‘social’. It’s a violent outburst where everyone is reaching for the stars but very few have company all the way. Where relationships are replaceable. And so are people. Divorce rates at an all time high. Where research suggests that humans are meant to be polygamous. And where broken hearts are dime a dozen. Where everyone seems to be on the lookout of a soulmate. But settle for something surprisingly less.

I see people breaking apart too soon. I see married couples who are so less than the individuals they used to be. I see hollow relationships and crackpots abound. I see children being brought up in dysfunctional families. The children themselves being worse off than their parents. I see couples who no longer strive to be better either individually or together.

And I do not wish to paint a grim picture of the world. Because that is not the case.

I see two individuals who decided to take on the world together. Live a life of dignity and grow as individuals and as a couple. Because two is always better than one. Bring up two kids and give them all that they could ask for. Fill love within themselves and around.

I don’t really know the story of my Baba n Maa. Except that they have known each other since they were little. And I still think their chemistry is unbeatable. That there is so much that can be learnt from them. Primarily: The power of love and it’s capacity to revolutionize, invigorate and build oneself (and the other along the way) for the better.

Happy 30th both of you!!

Is your conscience just happenstance?

Human beings are certainly the most complicated and yet the most intriguing species on Earth. They are queer, irritating, enticing, exciting and sometimes downright blasphemous. And it is a thrilling pleasure to explore them. What do they think? What do they do? Why do they do what they do? Sometimes we are horrified by what we migh find within ourselves or others. On the other hand, it might also be heart warming. The bottomline is: ‘Being human’ is not another support for humanity tagline.

I find humans far far more interesting than gadgets or science and technology. I enjoy trying to make sense of them and, though a tad scared sometimes, don’t stop in trying to uncover the workings of the conscience underneath. Maybe that’s why I revel in watching ‘Lie To Me’. For those who don’t know, ‘Lie To Me’ is a television series (that has completed three very successful seasons) based on Dr. Paul Ekman (who appears in TIME’s 100 Most Eminent Psychologists in the 20th Century) and his research on study of emotions related to facial expressions. The background of Dr. Ekman’s research analyzes the development of human traits and states over time.

People grapple with issues, betray other people, commit crimes, hurt others and themselves – it is all in there. But it is not that they do what they do. It is the motive that still eludes many. Coz you may be able to catch lies, you’d still have to use your brains to try and make sense of the ‘Why?’

Moving away from the show, I’d like to deal with the concept of our conscience. Volumes have been written – from evolutionary psychology to hardwired biology – telling us how over millions of years, our brains have been shaped and trained to comprehend and respond. Chromosomes from parents contain almost all genetic material required to shape the progeny. But, even more crucial, is the story of our life. Our growing up years. Our trudging through adulthood and its trials and tribulations.

Frankly, there is NO one particular moral code. Our morals vary. They might have been initially influenced by our parents and siblings/friends in childhood. What is right. What is not. But all parents are different alongwith their morals. And so also what they give to their child. But as we start to understand and also come under the influence of the ‘big bad world’ (as it is called), we alter our opinions, our views, our unwritten covenant of RIGHT and WRONG.

And so, when we do set out to judge something, it is based on our unique set of principles. I may think your principles are nonsense. And you may surely hold such an opinion to my opinions.

My point is: Based on this unique moral code, our conscience gets coded. Granted, some of our perceptions are biologically coded, but how do we define the conflicting views of, say an Indian and an Indian who’s in America for 30 years? Surely, there views on sexual promiscuity, to take an example, differ. Or, how children should be brought up. Or, the punishment for breaking laws.

Humanity is at an interesing crossroad. With cultures clashing and intermingling on such a large scale and conflicting influences fueling both growth and confusion, our conscience is surely NOT a part of some Universal equivalent Conscience. But, rather, a strange fusion. Our experiences. Our relationships. Our traumas. Our compromises. Our moments of valour. All play a role in this concoction.

So, is your conscience just a coincidence of influences? How much of it have you personally chalked out (through your own thought processes – whether correct or flawed)?

Is your conscience (your Guide) just happenstance?

“Who gets the credit?” – The Burning Question

[WARNING]: Serious Post

It is the new age of societal change. Stupendous growth driven by large corporations with workforces so huge, they might put the armies of medieval age to shame. Trillions of dollars owned by large financial corporations, Billion dollar valuation of countless global companies and millions of people driving this revolution – this is perhaps the best time and place to be ‘making a living’, if not ‘being alive’.

Anyway, with new age terms like ’soft skills’ and ‘team working’ sweeping over and HR activities influencing the bulk of the working class, we have come a long way from standing in a queue and fighting for a day’s wage akin to working in a coal mine. There are employee benefits, de-stressing activities, soft skill enhancement and most importantly big teams working on endeavours and projects.

‘Teamwork’ is an oft-repeated word today. People who work together in fulfilling common objectives. They share responsibilities and tough tasks. ‘Putting aside individual differences in pursuit of a common goal’ – has probably become the official definition of team work. And rightly so. In a world of varying skillsets, talent and perseverance, it is upto teams to handle projects in a manner so as to meet deadlines, deliver quality and value for money and, above all, ensure that every team member can hold the fort if another member goes wrong, errs or is, simply, on leave.

For someone who’s just entering the corporate world,  I hear new words like ‘appraisals’ and ‘referrals’. But more importantly, having worked on collective endeavours throught school and college, I am curious as to how large businesses handle ‘individual ego’ and when a team delivers to what extent is the most contributing member ‘given credit’.

Forgive me for bringing in an Ayn Rand-like individualistic philosophy into a world of collective endeavours that delivers (and rightly so) and where the ‘team’ comes before the individual, what happens ‘inside’ the team when someone outshines everybody else because of which the team reaches unchartered heights?

On a psychological level, all human beings crave love and acceptance. More importantly, humans feel a boost when their presence and their contribution is acknowledgement. It’s more than just bonuses and incentives. Its a craving (which may or may not be interwoven with the thirst to achieve and perform). But we agree that it is true for most of us.

A Business is shouldered by its employees. It grows and blooms because of the talent and hard work put in by each and every individual. Sure when a Team shines, the Lead is the one who takes the bow. And it is understandable because the Leader drove the team and motivated every individual to give his/her best.

But in a vibrant growing environment, regularly appreciating ideas/hard work/creativity/solutions of the Team members can a Lead/Manager hope to achieve substantial results. As employees go up in the hierarchical ladder, it is important that their moral values aren’t compromised. That as they grow, they understand how important a role they will be playing in several lives – his/her subordinates. And, hence, they learn to appreciate, to keep an open mind and to regularly give credit where its due.

Growing as an individual ensures that the Team will do wonders under that individual’s leadership.Iin client meetings and presentations, the Team (and the Lead) gets the credit and the applause. But even better is the approach of appreciating team members, who played crucial roles, inside the Team often and also in client/corporate meetings.

It works wonders on a person’s self-esteem and confidence and you not only earn a valuable aide in your projects, you also shape/groom individuals who in turn will shape the company, his/her juniors, maybe family, and the world at large.

And if you are a free bird with creativity as your wings, have the belief to go solo and chart out your path. A little courage is all you need to get going. And, trust me, the satisfaction and the freedom you’ll have is unparalleled!

Rain, Soiled Pants and the Bigger Picture

It rained last evening here. Light drizzle in the afternoon that culminated into a pretty intense shower in the wee hours of dusk. For someone who is enchanted by rain and finds the earthy smell post-rains as one of the most seductive of all natural fragrances, it was nothing short of a celebration.

Walking through the streets post-dinner in my bermudas and flip-flops, mud and water freely sticking to my calves and ankles and the raindrops, I was reminded that simple things in life are what really give bountiful happiness. That in the chaos of cellphones, corporate life (Supposed! Considering I am just starting ) and the din of a breakneck speed lifestyle, if one could just step back, one’s whole perspective undergoes a paradigm shift to what really matters.

And it is immensely important that we actually step back, now and again – in fact, as often as possible, and we would be disillusioned. Then the night would be fragrant and full of promise. The idea of the next day wouldn’t be boring or daunting. The undercurrent of your thoughts and your state-of-mind will be stillness and boyish wonder. And a hint of naughtiness.

Well, I guess I got carried away with the rain.

Anyway, this morning as I walked out of my apartment to reach where I was supposed to reach and the roadside was sloshed with puddles and mud. A particular thing about ‘corporate life’ (still don’t quite fit the bill) is your impeccable apparel. And so it was that I was treading carefully not to let dirt stain on my black formal pants. Quite unlike the guy trodding through the streets the previous evening in bermudas and flip-flops!

As I had my senses tuned in to focus on the traffic and the muddy waters, a little of the rest was enjoying the Hariharan-Leslie Lewis song playing in my earphones. Its titled ‘Kai Zhala’ and I rediscovered my love for the song when I heard it after ages last night.

It was then that my eyes fell on two girls walking in front of me. Their green uniforms signalled the nearby Government/Public school as their destination. But it was the feet of one of the two that struck me.

She was barefoot.

And happily walking through the uneven stones, the muddy/drainage waters and the roads. Her skirt was badly stained and her feet’s skin was virtually unrecognizable covered in muck. But they both went on, hand in hand, nonchalant – habituated to the hard terrrains and its harshness.

Well… So, who cares if you are wearing Woodland or Bata shoes?

You know what YOU should do? Anything!

Addressed to: The college going youth of today!

What did you do this Christmas?

Celebrated a quiet Saturday thankful that today is not college and slept till 1 in the afternoon? Or perhaps you went out for a movie with your girlfriend/boyfriend and celebrated with a beautiful dinner after. Some of you actually had a grand Christmas tree and revelled with family and friends and gifts and chocolates and plum-cake (and maybe beer).

And if you are in college, I am sure some of you were copying assignments. Just kidding! It was during vacations, remember? But my point is it was a mildly special day NOT very different from most ones you spend.

What did I do? Well, not much actually. It was a bright sunny day (for a supposedly ‘winter’ Christmas) and I (and a few friends of mine) spent some hours with under-privileged kids. We played games, danced to Bollywood music, sang hindi songs, ate cake and samosas with them and gifted them some books and woollen caps. I played photographer and clicked some amazing pictures with resplendent innocence simply bursting out of them.

There is something magical when small children remember your name and come to you with wide-eyes and an enigmatic smile beckoning you to come along and join them. To dance away your worries and simply relish living. And how by just ‘being there’, you made a difference.

Did we change anything that day? Not much. The books and stationery gifted will last perhaps a year. The woollen clothing, two more. But it was the gift of time and love that helped change a part of us (and a part of them, as they grow up, for the better). We did change something.

Throughout my four years in the college, I’ve been blessed to be part of initiatives and outings that have seeked to bring in change, however big or small. Many of them bore fruit because of and during my association with college clubs like ChESA/ISTE.

Last year’s Chemozàle (our annual fest) was coloured in shades of green with biodegradable bags, kulhads for chaai, khaadi kurtas and lakhs of used-A4-page-bound notebooks distributed among children. And to top it all a “Tree Plantation campaign” which was carried out to nullify all the carbon emitted during the event.
 
These actions, at the very least, speak in blatant bold – the power we, the educated youth, have. That we have the intellect and the right set of values to bring in changes around us. That we are smarter than our predecessors. That we don’t accept things at face value.

You live in the biggest democracy of the world. You study in one of the Top 25 colleges of your country. You live in a state where the  public is getting richer by the day because of a booming economy and unsurpassed opportunities.

Your family can afford your education knowing you’ll earn more in the first year of your job than the aggregate fees they paid for all four years. You have the independence to choose your own future.

But it matters on your perspective and on your actions.

You may cry out loud about how corrupt our government and the police force are. I agree. I did three rounds of the Sarkhej Police Station in Ahmedabad and even paid a bribe (Not much though! Bargained on the price ) to get my Passport Verification done.

You may say that enormous amounts of cash stashed in Swiss banks by corrupt Indians is depriving the 30+ billion below poverty line junta of our country basic food and amenities. Those, to throw in a fact, the BPL population of our country paid more than 850 crore rupees as bribe for ration items in 2007. Or that the 2G scam with 1.77 lakh crore rupees disappearing is tantamount to what is already known – “That the Government is not doing anything”. That, to use a Rang De Basanti dialogue, “Yahaan kuch badalne waala nahi hai”.

But let’s step back for a second, shall we? Before thinking on such a massive scale (which is important to know and grasp), are there any grass root level changes that we – during our “Engineering” years – can bring? We need to look at things from where we are and find ways to usher in change. And I do not mean just “social change”.

Let me illustrate.

During my first year, Nirma University (my alma mater) had a ‘Saaksharta Abhiyaan’ where students would gather on Sundays in college and go to villages nearby. We’d collect the children of the village and make them basic reading/writing/arithmetic skills (in Gujarati of course). Was it massive? No. But it was a small way to better the lives of some children.

I remember trying to teach ‘Ka’..‘Kha’ to a little girl with dishevelled hair and rough palms (probably because of the household work she was forced to at such a tended age). And how every syllable that she got made my heart jump.

The movement was disbanded soon after. No one bothered to go back. To tell you the truth, neither did I. If we had kept at it for say two years, who knows how much might have been achieved. But this was something in our hands and we had the ‘power’ to change things. It is beautiful how IIMA students teach the children of the families who live outside the walls of the revered institution. They have made it a legacy – a community service movement called “PRAYAAS” – and every incoming batch wholeheartedly participates in this endeavour.

Hence, if education is a burning issue – in addition to the Government bettering the 1.25 million primary schools in the country – we too can make a difference. College clubs by bringing in loads of people (even if it is just for Certificates in the beginning) and organizing regular community services activities – cleanliness campaigns, teaching rural kids, fund collections for tsunami/floods/earthquakes, donating money and time to NGOs, volunteering with movements like ‘Teach India’ – all this is possible and it is empowerment.

There are so many issues that need held. That need aid. Maybe research funding for Cancer and AIDS. Maybe food and shelter in tsunami affected areas. Maybe blankets and warm clothing to the homeless. Maybe some of your time at old age homes or orphanages.

There are so many pressing issues.

And since there are so many of them, you know what YOU should do? Anything!

Choose any of them and contribute. Just don’t sit there mumbling. You’ll have made a difference – however small – and changed lives.

We are too equipped in shaping our future to do things on a large-scale. But if you believe you have the passion to make changes and have the patience to see things through, the satisfaction gained is unmatched.